To: letters@guardian.co.uk
Re: Interacting with children: a source of joy and anxiety
Date: Monday 20 June 05

Dear Editor,

I found myself strongly identifying with the author of the text, presented by Gill Swain in yesterday's Observer, relating to “Why men should avoid working with children“.

As a man, one is acutely aware when having physical contact with children, who are  not one's own, of suspicious eyes examining every action for possible “inappropriateness”. No wonder so many of us suppress our spontaneity (most of the time without even realising it) and live in a subliminal (or not so subliminal) state of anxiety: of touching, or even looking at, a child or woman inappropriately, or of saying something that may offend someone's sexual, ethnic, racial, religious or whatever sensibilities.

Something is seriously wrong with our society. Like the caldera in Yellow Stone Park, it is difficult to recognise exactly what or where it is. But those who do may realise that, in a sense, we are all standing on a super volcano – not necessarily one that will explode (although that is perhaps a possibility), but into which we are slowly sinking and being smothered.

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